Becoming a mother changes everything. There’s the excitement to find out you are pregnant. You pick out strollers and decorate the nursery. You enjoy baby showers and baby bumps and spend hours on Pinterest. But not every mother has a birth story. Some motherhood moments are very non-traditional. Here’s mine…
There are many mothers who don’t go through the traditional birth process. We are the stepmothers and adoptive mothers and grandmothers and foster mothers and same sex mothers. We are the non-traditional mothers.
We read bedtime stories and help with homework and cheer at soccer games and wipe noses and do laundry and attend PTA meetings and wipe tears and bake birthday cakes.
We are the ones who politely and pleasantly answer the awkward question, “yes, but who is their REAL mother?”
We are the unsung heroes. We give unconditional love regardless or without a “REAL” title as mother.
Every single birth mother has a birth story to tell. They will always have that moment of seeing and holding their baby for the first time etched in their hearts.
I was honored to hear that The Honest Company was interested in hearing my story as a non-traditional mom as part of their Honest Moments of Motherhood campaign. You can see more in the video below and read on for my story…
When Carter and I met and started dating, his son was just a little guy. While we knew that we would eventually get married, we wanted to wait until everything was solid before introducing me to his son. We wanted this process to be positive and seamless for him.
Prior to meeting his son, when I was over at Carter’s house, I helped to decorate his room, I made his bed, I bought clothes for him, and even did his laundry. I felt like I knew this kid before I even met him. I was both nervous and excited when the day to meet my future stepson finally arrived.
Carter’s mother was in town, so the plan was for me to come over to the house to pick her up and go shopping. Carter’s mother opened the door, and Carter was in the other room with my future stepson sitting on top of his shoulders. My heart skipped a beat. It was at that moment that the idea of becoming a mother faded away and the reality set in.
Was I ready to inherit this family? Was I ready to be a stepmother? What on earth do I know about raising a boy? My head was all over the place. Thank goodness Carter’s mom was ready to go shopping. I needed some retail therapy.
Little did I know how much this guy would fill my heart. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2010, he never left my side and he hasn’t since. This month, Carter and I celebrate our 6th wedding anniversary, and Stepson turns 14 years-old. Little did I know how much fun being a Boy Mom would be. And honestly, being a Stepmom to this young man is the best job on the planet… real or not.
Many thanks to The Honest Company for honoring the non-traditional motherhood moments as a part of their campaign. And for those with more traditional motherhood moments, check out the variety of best-for-baby options provided by Honest.
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