I am selfish and I’m proud of it. Let me turn your world upside down and encourage you to be selfish too. I promise you, you won’t regret it!
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Huh? Um, Holly, I thought you were all about putting goodness out there in the world? Now you are talking about being selfish? Have you lost your mind? (Seriously, friends, I know this is what you are thinking – don’t even try to hide it.)
Stay with me and hear me out.
As women, we typically find ourselves as caregivers. We care for our kids. We care for our spouse. We care for our parents. We care for our neighbors. We care for the members of our church. The list goes on and on. If something needs to be done, we step up to do it.
If you work outside of the home, you come home and continue to work and take care of your family.
Mamma does not get any rest.
If you go to that quiet place and look at yourself in the mirror, how many of you are happy? Really, truly, honestly happy? Are you happy with yourself and your life? Are you happy with your weight? Are you happy with your job? Are you happy with your marriage? Are you happy with your kids? Are you happy with the cleanliness of your house?
The beginning of January is the time of year that we evaluate our lives, make empty promises called New Years Resolutions, and by January 12th, go back to the same ole rut we are used to.
This year, I challenge you to make a commitment to be selfish. Not in a narcissistic or hedonistic way, but in a mindful, healing, and self-caring way. I challenge you to focus on SELF to find that place of inner peace so that you have the space in your heart and home to give and love and live life like you want to.
You know what they train you to do if you are ever in an airplane accident? You put on your oxygen mask first and then take care of those around you. If you pass out, you are no good to anyone else. This analogy speaks volumes for our lives.
Do Not Compare
If you are like me and most people, we make the mistake of comparing our lives to what is out there on Facebook and Pinterest. If you haven’t already figured it out, the people’s lives that you see on social media is “fake.” Don’t try and compare yourself to your friends, your family, your neighbors, or anything you see online. Trust me when I say I know people who post the shiny happy photos of their families on Facebook and are having conversations behind closed doors about getting divorced. And I know way too many bloggers whose beautiful homes and food are all over Pinterest, yet are anything but “together” in real life.
It’s easy to put the best side of life out there on social media. Just remember that everyone has a real life behind all of the photoshopped perfection. It’s not about being envious or trying to compare.
This is about you and you only.
Take a moment to stop. Just stop and think. Think about your life and how you want it to look. Realistically. Write it down in your (bullet) journal.
And then start making baby changes to get there. Find a happy and obtainable place somewhere in the Goldilocks middle, and make it real for you to implement. Little daily changes to make your life better in the way you want it to be better.
How to Be Selfish 101
“I don’t have time in my schedule to do anything.” Got it. But make the time.
Today, I’m going to…
Today, I’m NOT going to…
What is your oxygen mask?
- Getting your nails done?
- Going for a massage?
- Practicing gratitude?
- Going for a walk?
- Taking a yoga class or going to the gym?
- Asking Hubby or the kids to do the dishes?
- Taking a nap?
- Spending 30 minutes to read a good book?
- Saying “no” to anything that isn’t in alignment with your wellness plan?
- Writing in your Gratitude (bullet) Journal?
The goal is to put yourself in that place of peace where you have taken care of yourself first so that you have the bandwidth to give all of your best self to those you love.
I’m really looking forward to the upcoming year and sharing it with you. We are on this journey together. Let’s be selfish this year, and make it one of the best.
Are you Inspired? It’s time for more GRATITUDE!
Love, hugs, and it’s all about me… and you.HERE.