Can we have some real talk this month? Like the honest kind. As a health and fitness coach I always spend time in the beginning of my sessions getting to know my clients and what it is they are hoping to change. I ask about habits, goals, expectations and why they want to or perhaps NEED to change their ways. Size is generally a part of this conversation. But fit isn’t a number on a scale or the size of your jeans. Let me share with you the real size of healthy.
Most times, women come to me at a “rock bottom” sort of desperation. Many have tried different diets or workouts and can’t seem to find success and are finally ready to do whatever it takes to make change happen. The stories they give me are often touching and at times very relate-able to where I used to be as a new mom myself. They share struggles of finding the time to exercise, not knowing where to start when it comes to healthy eating and just a general feeling of being overwhelmed and frustrated and not really knowing how to get started.
Goals Require Hard Work
When I ask them about the time that they have to put into this and the amount of work they are willing to do in regards to meal planning and meal prepping and actually working out I find the goals that they are setting for themselves don’t always align with the required work they will have to do to get there.
Many women come to me with big weight loss goals and some think it is going to happen in the blink of an eye. I have helped many lose 60+ lbs but I can tell you this. That did not happen overnight, just like they didn’t put it on overnight. It has to be a journey if you want to do it the right way. It’s going to take time and hard work. There is a lot of sweat and a few tears too, but they will be able to accomplish their goals sooner than they think.
Not all of them will get down to a size zero though and that is fine! Some women will share goals with me that are startling and may not be possible for their body type. I don’t know where we got it in our heads that a size zero with a six pack was normal because I will be honest with you it’s not the norm. Not at all in fact. Take a walk thru the mall or any place in society and look around. I am willing to bet you see more women who are a size 6 or 12 or even 16 than you do a size zero. See I find that many of these women got the messaged mixed up that to be healthy you have to be skinny. It’s so not the case at all.
The Tale of My Two Zeroes
If I am being honest I will tell you something. I am a size zero myself. I have been since I was in high school. I was blessed with great genetics but I have been two different kinds of size zeros. Before I had my son and shortly after I had him I was a size zero who ate junk food, never exercised and got by because of my fast metabolism but really I wasn’t healthy at all.
Now I still am a size zero but my clothes fit oh so differently. I actually have a butt that I earned by doing tons of squats. My arms are toned and defined which they never were before. I crave healthy foods and truly know how to eat clean now. I still don’t have a six pack though. You want to know why? Because I don’t want one. Do I know how to get one? Yes absolutely but the reality is achieving that look comes with a lot of trade offs. One that I am not willing to commit to. Those women who have six pack abs and look the they just came off the cover of a magazine are spending tons of time to achieve that look. Their diets are insane and so is the amount of time they are spending training. They are working HARD to achieve that look. I say more power to them, but I think the average woman needs to stop making those six pack abs a goal of hers unless she wants to put in some serious time commitments.
The Size of Healthy
I hope you can learn and truly believe that healthy is a size that is going to look different on every woman. I have clients who are busting their butts each day working out, eating clean and truly putting forth tons of effort and they are not a size zero and probably never will be. This isn’t because what they are doing isn’t working it’s simply because healthy isn’t just a number it’s a feeling that can only truly be felt when your putting in the work of eating clean and exercising.
I would encourage you to be nicer to yourself when you look into the mirror. If you are doing all the right things and you feel great then simply be proud of yourself and your efforts. If your not happy with where you are, then please ask for help. There are so many different ways to make healthy living fun.
When you do decide to set some goals for yourself be nice, be realistic and agree to allow yourself to be proud of your body and your efforts. Regardless of what the scale might be telling you.
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Let’s learn to simply embrace that.
If you need help with your health and fitness goals please feel free to reach out to me. It would be my pleasure to chat more with you.
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